This soldier’s future wife is one very lucky woman
An email I received in response to my query about men’s biological clocks, from a Georgetown classmate of mine, who is now serving as an officer in Iraq. What an amazing man he is … it’s so reassuring to know that there are men out there who feel like this.
Julia,
I have hit that point at a rather early age. It didn’t take me long to get bored of purely physical relationships with no emotional significance. I think the vast majority of men are extremely immature in this regard. Even much older men who are married are almost ALL still completely at the mercy of their adolescent physical desires. Very few of them seem to have any respect for women as human beings or any understanding of the value of a real emotional connection.
I think most men hit the point where they decide to get married simply out of social responsibility and guilt. They feel they owe it to their parents or somehow that’s the “proper” thing to do. In reality, I have only met two “happily married” men in my life who give their wives the level of dedication and respect women deserve. As I said before, every man I know, including married ones, spend all of their time looking at other girls butts and fantasizing about them publicly with friends. A common phrase is “it’s ok to look, as long as you don’t touch, hehehe.” I think such statements are truly pathetic.
I would say that crude, sexual talk occupies 50 percent of male conversation in the US. It’s quite tasteless and undignified. Men always share the details of their sexual exploits (usually exaggerated) with little regard for the honor of the women involved.
The continued, childish pursuit of “tail” continues throughout most men’s lives and overshadows everything else. That is why it is so easy for people like me (who have grown up and realize that there are more important things in the world than sex) to crush them in the professional realm. Sorry for this venting, but it just gets annoying. If the soldiers in my unit spent less time talking about crude sexual acts and more time learning their jobs maybe we wouldn’t keep getting killed. The crude, tail chasing tendency might be worse in the military but not by much. I see it everywhere. You can just look at most guys and see what they’re after. Most women can’t see it though. They fall for it every time and end up getting used, and then discussed in crude conversations around the world for the next 20 years.
As for myself, I want to get married because I want something stable that will help me achieve my goals in regards to my country and the world. I’m tired of playing the game. It’s exhausting and stupid and I just want all of that to end. I’m sick of it.
i read this. and i realised, that i know a lot of guys. more guys than girls, perhaps. but out of all the guys that i know, only a small, small handful of them are actually decent guys. and as much as i love all of my guy friends, it is definitely a little transparent as to which of them are genuine.
the genuine guys are the best to talk to. and whilst the others are so, so, so much fun, i also really enjoy hanging out with the decent guys. they have an air about them. all i know is, something’s different. something GOOD is different. probably the fact that they DON’T stare at every girl they see, and that makes me feel less self conscious about myself.
